Wisdom On Facebook?

Seen on Facebook - "This morning my sweety said 'Ohh don't YOU look nice'... to which I commented I wasn't sure if this top went with that skirt. He said' You're too fashion conscious. You should be a little more UNconscious.' Methinks the man is very wise. =)"

Lots of clues to the operation of human conscious and unconscious thinking in that little post. They say that 90-95% of our thinking is unconscious and only 5-10% conscious. How "they" can measure that, I have no clue, but "they" make a valid point.

 

Most of what causes our actions, reactions and choices happens "below the surface," where we are unmindful of it. The unconscious processes go on 24/7, whether we are awake or asleep, paying attention or not - and that is a good thing. If it were not so, we could never keep up with and respond to all the incoming data and we'd soon be dead. Think about it... That's right, tell your cerebral cortex what to think about. 

The fact that we can do that - that we can tell our brain what to think - is the whole foundation for any kind of training or coaching. If that were not true, intentional change or improvement in any way would be impossible.

Back to the story...Think of all the unspoken nuanced messages that were sent and received. Looks like they might have included, "I love you and think you look great no matter how you dress," "I think you are letting your self-image depend too much on how you think others see you."  Whatever he intended to convey, she took it as wisdom.  I can only guess at the traffic on her embedded neural pathways that allowed her to respond to his "should" statement positively instead of react negatively at "being told how to think." (as I am instantly inclined to do.)

Hmmm...maybe I need some coaching help with my thinking.

Lorne